Your life experiences matter and your stories are worth telling!

Photo by Joshua Oluwagbemiga on Unsplash
Oshoala dribbles the ball during the 2019 UEFA Women’s Champions League Final. Photo By Steffen Prößdorf, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=79123687
Picture from Twitter account of @FemOladoyin
  1. April, 2021. Asisat Oshoala had foot surgery for a recurrent pain on her right foot. Barcelona confirm successful Oshoala surgery | Goal.com
  2. May, 2021. She suffered an ankle injury. Oshoala suffers another injury blow — Score Nigeria.
  3. November, 2021. She had a knee injury. Oshoala gutted by injury, out for at least two months (premiumtimesng.com).
  4. February, 2022. About the time of the cryptic tweet she made, she suffered a serious thigh injury that would keep her out of play for weeks. Asisat Oshoala: Barcelona and Nigeria forward suffers thigh injury — BBC Sport.
  1. We all have a story to tell. Every human being has a story to tell. Each one of us is peculiar, unique, and different. Even identical twins who grew up together may have different views and stories to tell. That is why identical twins music stars of the P-square fame, Peter and Paul Okoye, separated for several years before getting back together. It’s important that we allow people to talk about their feelings, their experiences, and their stories, no matter their socioeconomic status or perceived privileges.
  2. Do not belittle your own story in favour of others. There are times when we are faced with self-doubt and low self-esteem. At such times, we wonder whether or not our story is worth telling. ‘I have not done anything extraordinary’, you may wonder. However, in each one of our lives, we have stories and life experiences that are important and valid. Don’t look down on your own story, tell it.
  3. Do not undermine other people’s story in favour of yours. Your story is important and so are the stories of others. Don’t look down on others simply because you’ve overcome worse challenges and difficulties. Don’t besmirch the stories of others because you think they've had an easy life. Imagine going to your doctor to complain about something that was relatively minor, and instead of giving you due attention, the doctor said, ‘Is that it? Is that why you came to the hospital? Don’t you know that others have worse problems than yours? Grow up, already’! How would you feel if you were that patient? Sad, right?😔 In the same vein, allow others tell their stories as well, no matter how we feel about such individuals. We might learn a lot from listening to others without jumping the gun.
  4. Tell your story, no matter what. Even when your story is similar to that of other people, still tell it anyway. The story maybe dry, lacking excitement. It may be dull and uninspiring. It may be similar to that of others, ‘haven’t we heard that before, boring…’🥱 But tell it anyway. Telling your story comes with some benefits even when others don’t appreciate it at that moment. A problem shared is a problem halved, as the saying goes. There is a gain when you unburden yourself by talking about your life experiences.
  5. Do not be tempted to tweak your story to make it more catchy. Your story is good enough as it is. Some persons have tweaked their story, in order to create a seemingly better narrative. A best graduating student had a story to tell, but several years later, he claimed he graduated with First Class honours. Those are two different things. You can be best graduating student and still not have First Class honours, if nobody got a First Class in your Department at the year you graduated. You had best graduating status because of obtaining the highest GPA, albeit not up to the First Class range. A former Nigerian minister was accused of telling this lie. It undermined his credibility. Graduating as best graduating student was good enough, there was no need to tweak it. The lies have a way of catching up on us.
  6. We all process issues and difficulties differently. There was this story I read in my grammar school days. A shoe company sent 2 salespersons to a new community to assess whether they could make sales in that community. When they got back to the company, they presented different reports. One said that in that community, nobody wears shoes, they walk barefooted, and as much, the company won’t be able to make good sales in the community as the people there were not used to wearing shoes. The other salesperson said that ‘Good news! People don’t wear shoes in that community. So, we can teach them how to wear shoes and make good sales in the process’. Two persons saw the same scenario but processed it differently.
Web capture of the Instagram page of the Asisat Oshoala Foundation (Taken on 8th April, 2022)

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Dr Eugene Ojirigho

Dr Eugene Ojirigho

I write, I teach, I educate, on a variety of issues: health, science, history, politics, current and trending issues. I just want to write and share my views.